How to Survive the Separation from a Loved One
In the life of any person, sooner or later comes the moment when one has to part with the loved one. Situations that generate separation can arise in many ways: moving to another city if it is impossible to maintain communication with a friend, divorcing (especially if one of them continues to love), the death of a loved one - these are just a few examples of life dramas that often cause mental pain, a sense of hopelessness and anxiety even in strong natures. When a loved one leaves, it seems that you can not escape from the hole of solitude. But is it really so? We want to share with you tips that will help you regain strength after a blow of fate called "separation".
It is very important to overcome this heavy feeling. If you do not work with it, it disguises itself and somehow disappears, remaining on the very cloak in the depths of the subconscious and causing a strong sense of anxiety. Over time, people cease to understand the causes of this anxiety - it seems to them that it simply exists, as an inseparable part of the individual. This is disastrous both for the individual and for those around him or her.
Fighting Separation Anxiety: Tips and Advice
To begin with, I would like to note that you will not be able to get rid of the pain and anxiety quickly. Too much wound was inflicted on the human soul! Too many facets of the psyche were put under attack! Only long-term and painstaking work will help to get out back to life, and any "instantaneous anesthesia" can be just a dummy clouding consciousness and generating new problems.
Do not try to fill the void, formed after the separation with a loved one, by random people: for example, instead of the ex-husband to find consolation in the embraces of the first person you met. First, it's not fair to the ex-partner. Secondly, such connections rarely make anyone happier. But all the same, you need to try to get acquainted with people, gradually creating new friendship connections. New people, new impressions are able to switch our attention to the bright side of life.
Any parting is life, but in life, there is nothing eternal. Ability to accept change will help you survive the gap.
Yes, the withdrawal of a significant person is able to strike heavily on consciousness: a one-step and strong push, crushing the worldview and plans for the future, throws us to the bottom of a deep pit with gentle slopes. In the beginning, it seems that there are no steps and we have nothing to grab to get to the top. But after the break, we must learn to stop thinking in terms of "we" ("we wanted to go on vacation together, build a house, have a lot of children ...") and try to choose those roles that you would like to perform on the stage of this world.
Psychologists say that it is this abstract "we" that is the most common cause of anxiety after parting. A person thinks for too long that he or she is part of a whole. When the second part of this whole disappears, the painful processes of rebuilding begin in the psyche. If the connection between you was too strong, the subconscious will resist this restructuring and try hard to keep this abstract "we".